Merry go round moments – week 5.

Family fun: top shot.

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Our little man, begrudgingly doing his tummy-time thing.  Neither of my children have liked being on their tummies.  I think they are both inherently too nosey and find it frustrating that their line of sight is restricted in this position.  His big sister grew to love tummy time when we plonked her on a pillow in front of a big mirror.  She was enchanted by this big-eyed, gurgling, smiling thing looking right at her.  Perhaps it is time to get the mirror out again?  Of course, when we were a one-child household, leaving a mirror on the floor, propped up against a wall was no problem.  These days, with a toddler racing round the place, exploring everywhere and picking up anything left lying around, it’s not quite so easy anymore.

 

Pause for thought.

After two weeks of celebrations, Dashain is drawing to a close.  It is the most auspicious event in the Nepalese calendar, marking the triumph of good over evil, gods over demons.  It is a period of huge celebration, each day having very particular rituals attached to it.  It is fascinating, and I’ve spent hours with Nepalese friends, drinking homemade chai and learning about Dashain and other facets of Nepali faith and culture.

Dashain is a time spent with family and friends, making offerings and receiving blessings, feasting, celebrating, and enjoying the festivities.  Of the Nepali’s I know, even the most cosmopolitan amongst them gets very excited about Dashain and the traditions and practices attached to it.  It’s wonderful to be part of, even if only on the very periphery.

We haven’t been able to go to any of the big Dashain celebration nights this year, because the little man is just not ready to be left with a babysitter yet.  It is disappointing, because this is very likely to be our last year spent in the heart of a Nepalese community.  It has been such a privilege.  They are genuinely some of the most beautiful people – inside and out – that I have ever met.  I am hoping that we will be able to join in with the Tihar celebrations which are coming up in November.  Very similar to Diwali, and lots of fun.  We’ll have to wait and see though.  Babies are fickle things when it comes to routines, especially, I’ve noticed, when your social plans depend on them!

 

Memories are made of this.

The time has come – potty training is upon us!  We had hoped to start last weekend, so that we’d have the entire half-term holiday week together to tackle it as a parenting team.  But with everyone in the household being laid low with a bad cold it didn’t seem like the best of times.  Feeling rotten and then also having to concentrate on a new and complex task didn’t seem fair to our girly at all!  We are only on day two, so it is still definitely a work in progress.

We have had very little in the way of actual successes, and a lot of ‘Nearly!  Good try!‘ moments.  Still, the sticker/sweeties reward chart is going down a storm, so hopefully that will keep motivation high, and it will be a relatively quick process.  Fingers crossed, otherwise we may need to go back to the drawing board.  Although I think that may be easier said than done as – after two days of relative freedom – our girly is now resolutely and very vocally against wearing daytime nappies!

The coming week promises to be interesting…

 

Laugh out loud.

How do you stop a toddler doing something you don’t want them to do?  In our house we explain why it’s a bad idea.  ‘Please move away from mummy’s coffee cup, it’s hot and it will hurt if you spill it on you’, ‘walk in the kitchen while mummy is trying to cook, running is dangerous in here’, ‘please move away if you want to swing your toy golf club.  Even if it was an accident it would really hurt your brother if you hit him by mistake’.  That kind of thing.

We are having to give out a lot of warning explanations at the moment.  I guess that is just how it is with toddlers, whilst they are widening their horizons and testing the boundaries.  Anyway, with the potty training underway we are obviously going for knickers rather than nappies now, but our girly had an afternoon where she just didn’t want to wear either.  So there we are saying ‘come on, we need to get some knickers on you’, and she just completely flipped our parenting model round on us and said ‘I can’t wear knickers, it’s dangerous’. She totally floored us!

 

Quick quote.

‘People ask me, what is special about my mentorship which has made Malala so bold and so courageous and so vocal and poised? I tell them, don’t ask me what I did. Ask me what I did not do. I did not clip her wings, and that’s all.’

Ziauddin Yousafzai

 

Music makes me happy.

Seven years married this week, and more than ten years together.  What a wonderful journey so far.  This week in October has a lot of meaning to us as a couple, as nearly every year since we’ve been together something wonderful or momentous has happened during it.

The first October we were together we took a holiday in Northumberland.  Lots of fantastic memories of long walks, windswept beaches, cosy English pubs, and hours and hours just basking in each other’s company.  On the long drive up there and throughout the holiday as we drove about we listened to KT Tunstall’s album, Eye to the Telescope.  Now every time I hear one of those tracks, it takes me back to Northumberland.

So it felt pretty special when Universe & U – my favourite song from the album – played out on the radio this week.

 

Good times.

A beautiful, sunny morning at the swimming pool.  Little man sleeping peacefully in the shade, our girly shrieking with glee whilst she swam and splashed. We are all real water lovers in our family, but it has been ages since we were last able to get down to the pool, for one reason and another.  The pure, unfettered joy on our girly’s face really brought it home to me that we must try harder to carve out non-negotiable time to make swimming a more regular family activity.  No more excuses!

 

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10 thoughts on “Merry go round moments – week 5.

  1. Osyth

    I LOVE that Ziauddin Yousafzai quote … thank you for sharing it. And KT Tunstall ‘Eye to the Telescope’ now that is a great soundtrack to a life, in my very humblest of opinions. Great shares on your babes – unforgettable the knickers moment. Thank you – I look forward to these 🙂

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    1. jenny Post author

      Thank you, Osyth. It’s so nice knowing that others enjoy reading my little rambles as much as I like writing them. Especially when that person is also a KT Tunstall fan! 😉 I love the quote, I’m so glad you do too.

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      1. Osyth

        I absolutely love her and my song for my second daughter (now a mighty 25 but a mere strippling of 16 at the time) is Suddenly I See … I have songs and poems for all of them, of course and the collection just grows as they do – I intend to make books for each of them containing the lyrics and quotes and pictures that instantly bring them to my mind. I must stop putting it off – after all, I don’t have a baby AND a toddler to occupy me. Just a tiny dog and and occasional husband! Keep writing – I love it 🙂

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        1. jenny Post author

          What a truly beautiful idea, Osyth. I might have to borrow that one! Such an amazing and touching way to share with your children.

          I’ve seen KT Tunstall perform live, and she was fantastic. Suddenly I See is the perfect song for a beloved daughter.

          You’ve had your fair share of baby/toddler crazy years I’m sure!! But yes, it’s true how the ‘non-urgent’ things just always seem to get put to the bottom of the list, even though often they are really more important. I’m sure once you get started on the books you’ll race along – it sounds like a lovely way to get lost in a task.

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          1. Osyth

            I’ll keep you posted … as it happens, I have just received the slide show of photos form my eldest’s wedding which encourages me further. Next thing know there will be grandchildren – must must must!

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            1. jenny Post author

              Ahh, so lovely. Wedding photo slideshows are wonderful – especially when you are really close to the special couple – such a special day and so many special moments captured forever. I’ll look forward to the progress update with the books! 😉

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    1. jenny Post author

      Thank you so much Patti. I get so much pleasure from pausing to reflect on my week in this way, and it makes it even lovelier hearing that others enjoy reading the posts.

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